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February 6, 2020 By KT Wilson

The REALities of Healing for REAL

There’s Some Hurt that Comes with Healing

You run the risk of hurting people when you are hurting.

You also run the risk of hurting people when you are healing. It isn’t deliberate, it just happens. It’s one of the short-term, yet painful, byproducts of deciding to live for REAL.

Mending your Self is a process that sometimes leads to surprising decisions, unpredictable changes, random isolation, and plenty of other unappealing circumstances (particularly unappealing to the people not doing the mending and likely unaware of the fact that you are).

Healing Requires Selfishness

When you are completely immersed in the journey back to REAL health, the all-consuming nature of the process can create a version of you that appears quite careless and thoughtless from an outside perspective. And the truth is that you do temporarily forget about everyone else when you make it your mission to get well for REAL. Self-exploration and self-improvement involve a high level of self-absorption. When you are self-absorbed, everyone else’s needs fall second to your own. That’s REALity. And it’s OK.

To anyone accustomed to receiving a healthy dose of your attention, however, none of it feels OK. The less-than-attractive shifts that REAL healing causes can feel unsettling at best. You are suddenly either not as available or completely unavailable, and that can be jarring. It’s a situation which inspires the kinds of factors that have a cunning way of quietly backing you into the role of villain in someone else’s story (maybe more than one someone and more than one story). By the time this unintentional dynamic makes its way onto your radar, it’s typically too late to do anything about changing the outcome.

You can certainly reflect on it, journal about it, meditate on it, bathe in sage-infused salts to cleanse yourself of the anxiety that comes from it, and practice all of the treatments that the wellness world prescribes (I’d be disappointed if you didn’t!). At the end of the day, however, all you can reasonably do is resist the knee-jerk urge to repent and press on with the business of healing. You must, as Elsa reminds us in the movie Frozen, “let it go.”

Release the Need for Redemption

I can be funny about it now, but the REAL tea is that it can be a pretty confusing scenario that generates an irritating state of ambivalence for everyone in the mix. For you, especially, it can create tons of inner conflict.

On the one hand, you are SO tempted to offer up apologies and justifications (two of your favorite addictions, if you’re anything like moi). On the other hand, you are fully aware (perhaps for the first time ever) that you’ve done nothing wrong (and assuming there have been no deliberate acts of unkindness, you haven’t). There isn’t anything tangible to apologize for, yet you still feel the strong urge to do so.

This is usually about the time when you notice that you are teetering on the edge of that fragile line most people tend to either ignore or step over on a fairly regular basis. You recognize it more clearly now, though…it’s the one that distinguishes the responsibility you have for your reactions, emotions, and experiences, and the responsibility others have for theirs.

Wait for It…

Eventually the most liberating concept floods your field of awareness, like a soaking rain following a relentless drought: You no longer have to atone for the way someone else feels.

BAM!

The clouds part. The dust settles. The cartoon lightbulb above your head flickers on. If there is a raving televangelist anywhere in your vicinity, he runs up and slaps his palm to your forehead proclaiming, “you are healed!”

The epiphany that comes with the profound realization that you are only accountable for your own life, actions, thoughts, and feelings can be quite exhilarating. Yet it also leaves you slightly mixed and disturbed, because you want the people you care about to be happy with you. Ultimately, though, the new revelation liberates you enough to resist crossing that line and to avoid giving into the habitual urge to justify the steps you have taken to heal, or to beg for pardon because of them.

Scared shitless but resolute (for REAL this time), you march on and bravely fly the flag of wellbeing, intent to speak and live out your truth with love and to find fresh ways to outwit your apology-pushing ego. You know it will be a lifelong process. You understand and accept that prioritizing your REAL healing will undoubtedly piss off, baffle, disturb, and perhaps even hurt some people. That won’t be anything you root for, but intuition tells you that it will come to pass just the same (the key word here is pass…because none of this will last forever).

Let’s Be Honest (&Heal)

You will recognize that it’s all worth it, because the REAL tea is that you aren’t sorry that you finally found the right medicine for your dis-ease. You are at last tasting REAL freedom for the first time in your human life, and you have no regrets about how you made it to the table.

Shedding the worn-out cloak of remorse, you channel your inner alchemist and set out to transform any lingering guilt into the powerful energy you will use to remain in this new healthy space. It will be the energy you will channel to swiftly guide others to that same space.

It will be the force that will fuel your efforts to continue Heading in the direction of greater Energy, Awareness, and Love. It’s a direction that will result in some painful side effects for all involved, but you know full well that the most curative tonics are always the hardest to swallow.

And that, my friends, is the REAL tea.

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K.T. Wilson is a health and wellness blogger and speaker dedicated to helping people discover and harness their personal power to create balanced lives of joy and ease. She resides in Harford County, MD, with her husband and two daughters, and is currently writing a book on the benefits of REAL living.

Filed Under: Keeping it REAL, REAL Healing, Uncategorized

October 29, 2018 By KT Wilson

Why REAL?

KT Wilson Stream Kneeling ReflectiveThe time to start living for REAL is now. People are growing weary of pretense, and the call for authenticity is on the rise.

A new focus has been placed on being REAL, genuine, and original, pretty much across the board. It could be because I was inspired to zero in on the word REAL that the term has begun to show up everywhere (the Universal Law of Attraction would certainly dictate this!), but it truly does seem to be popping up all over the place lately. Advertising agencies are excessively capitalizing on the word. Hell, even the back of the Triscuits box touts the crackers as “real food made by real people.”

What I call the “REAL” movement is reflected in things like the push to eat more organic foods, use all-natural chemical-free products, and subscribe to holistic and alternative health treatments. I listen to people talk about politics, spirituality, education, and wellness, and – regardless of the viewpoints – what I hear translates to a collective craving for fresh, legitimate, raw, honest approaches to all of it. We are growing weary of overly-processed foods and overly-processed lives. We have less and less of a taste and tolerance for the artificial flavors of life. We don’t want the fake shit that generations before us blindly swallowed. We’re over it.

So what’s with the Tea?

If you live with a teenager, you may have heard the expression, “spilling the tea.” If not, a quick google search will generate a handful of Urban Dictionary definitions for reference. People like to turn this phrase when they have juicy gossip, dramatic stories, or big news to share. I think it is pretty dam catchy and clever!

The meaning I like best is, “telling the truth about something/someone to other people.”

That is exactly what I want to do. I want to tell you the truth, my truth. I want to get REAL with you about ways I have successfully left behind an overly-processed life and started to step into simple, authentic, REAL living. My truth just might help you find your truth, and your truth will lead you to your REAL life.

We are friends who are about to start a REALly interesting conversation about discovering and channeling your power and energy and crafting a life that is easier, happier, calmer, and more enjoyable more of the time. Isn’t that what we are all shooting for at the end of the day? Ease and contentment?

Indeed.

But before we brew . . .

If we are going to drink REAL tea together, you will need to come to the table with a few mission critical items.

An open mind.

KT Wilson Comfort Zone QuoteAt times, you may be asked to abandon your logical, pragmatic mindset and tap into your intuitive nature. Some of the tea I will spill will be so steamy that only someone with the willingness to think counterintuitively and out-of-the-box will be able to stand the heat. Think you can take it? I know you can.

We are going to be chatting it up about some things that have been hidden from you (albeit unintentionally). Getting REAL will involve challenging some of your core beliefs, and that process can be uncomfortable. Your new mantra: Get comfortable being uncomfortable.

Faith (in YOU)

I am not referring to the kind of faith that they talk about in church and religion class. I am talking about faith in yourself. . . Faith in the human spirit, and faith in your own, immense, REAL power.

Believing that you were born with, and have regular access to, a creative source energy may be a big stretch for you. I get it. But how will you know if you don’t test the theory?

Expand for REAL. Explore for REAL. Experiment for REAL.

Worst case scenario: you don’t see results, and your life stays the same.

Best case scenario: your life becomes REALly amazing. What have you got to lose?

Motivation to stop the insanity

Einstein defined insanity as doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. I think we can all pick up what he is putting down. This is not rocket science, people.

Recycled routines will not produce new and REAL results. Period.

More importantly, the whole idea is to remove the insane chaos and limiting factors from your daily experience. You can’t embrace REAL living if your credo is, “this is my circus, and these are my monkeys.” Please. To quote the sweet old lady in that hilarious Esurance commercial, “That’s not how it works! That’s not how any of this works!”

REAL life is about living large by shifting your focus in small ways towards rather simple things. In other words, it is about changing things up via bite-sized and manageable methods. REAL life is all about ease, simplicity, and contentment. Beginning to live for REAL should not be complex or overwhelming. I am talking gradual tweaking at a peaceful pace. REAL progress at a REAListic rate.

In any case, change is key. You should make room for it, NOW.

I have made both large-scale and small-scale changes along my road to REAL living. There have been a few profound shifts, like simplifying my living situation by trading in a 6,000 sq. ft house for a 1,400 sq. ft apartment (kind of a big deal). Yet, I have also made many more subtle tweaks to my daily routines, like replacing a miniature brush/dustpan set with a full-sized, taller broom so that I could stop straining my back hunched over the floor every morning when I clean up the cat litter. I still don’t understand why it took me 4 months to stumble upon that brilliant solution. We tend to make things so hard for ourselves, don’t we? I can’t even . . . smh.

Now I am certainly not suggesting that a drastic residential change is required to live a REAL life,  or that purchasing the right cleaning products will necessarily save your soul, but I am suggesting that if you will sharpen your focus on making whatever shifts are necessary so that you are a happier and more relaxed person living moments and days that are even just a little easier and less taxing, the cumulative effects will be life-altering, I mean REALly off the charts.

KT Wilson Einstein Energy

I have been experimenting with this stuff for 10+ years, and I have a pretty sweet formula brewing. You don’t have to stress about hammering out a new recipe from scratch – you can build off of mine!! Chillax, friend. I am going to be sharing and spilling all kinds of tea, and we will find your flavors.

Your job: Get REAL inspired. Decide to claim your REAL power. Make it your intention to create a REAL life.

You can do this. I have your back, and so does the Universe.

Shit’s about to get REAL.

REAL is where it’s at.

And that’s the REAL tea.

Get REAL inspired about creating a REAL life, and check out the starter pack of REAL resources in the library!!

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