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February 2, 2019 By KT Wilson

Create Space and Time for Your REAL Visions and Authentic Intentions to Manifest with Ease

Week #3: Transform Your Life Through Digital Detoxing & Calendar Cleansing

A good friend recently gave me an hourglass as part of a belated Christmas present. The gift came with a hand-written note that included a profound Shakespearean quote about time. As I flipped my unique treasure upside-down and examined the fine gray granules flowing through its narrow neck, I was struck by the humbling thought that my time on earth is not limitless. Talk about getting REAL.

The REAL tea is that we simply don’t know how much time we have left on our journeys. All we can be sure of is that we have this moment. This is precisely why we are being constantly encouraged to live in the now and seize the day! Time is of the essence.

Time demands respect. It desires to be slowly savored. It asks only to be recognized and managed with care and gratitude.

Each of us has a limited amount of time to enjoy life and leave our mark (at least as it pertains to the role we were born to play in this particular time and place). Faced with such uncertain circumstances, we must embrace life and do everything within our power to experience it fully, with joy and peace saturating every second.

We can’t mess around here, friends. We can go big, or we can go home. Time demands that we live for REAL.

Honoring Time through the Ritual of REAL Space Clearing

Having a keen sense of our impermanence does not have to be a downer. REAL awareness about the precious and fleeting qualities of time can empower us to appreciate and spend it wisely and with authentic intention.

We have taken the last few weeks to clear, clean, and open up our space to make room for the REAL ways we want to use our time as we move forward. In organizing and refreshing the physical areas in which we live and breathe, we have structured those environments in ways that allow us to make the most of our time.

The work we have done to deliberately transform our physical worlds into places that better support our REAL dreams and visions has equipped us with new perspectives and fresh insights. We are not the same people we were at the turn of the year. We are awake, for REAL.

With rekindled clarity and wide-open eyes, we march into the final stage of our REAL space detox prepared to cleanse and clear our digital real estate. Together, let us scrub up our cyber and cellular spaces. In doing so, we will create bridges to our inner worlds, setting the stage to deeply examine and cleanse our minds and hearts in the coming months.

Day-Timer Detox 101

One of the finest ways to honor your time and create a REAL life is to make room in your moments and days for activities, experiences, and interactions that support the energy, vibe, and vision you are cultivating. It can be challenging to turn in our “busy” badges and “champion doer” superhero capes, especially in a society where an over-booked itinerary has sadly become a sought-after status symbol.

At the end of the day, however, cleaning and clearing our physical spaces won’t do any good if we have no time to spend enjoying and relaxing in them. We must deeply examine our schedules and deliberately create the time we require to do the work that will bring our visions and intentions to life.

Start to craft the time you need to live your best REAL life, and use the following suggestions as your guide.

  • Make it a point to begin mastering the art of saying no more often. Let someone else be the organizer and ring leader every now and then. This ties into family, friend, and community requests and expectations – there are enough of us to share the load on all fronts, you don’t have to do it all!
  • If an activity is not crucial to your livelihood, family function, or health, take it off the calendar and place it on a to-be-categorized list (we will get back to it, no worries!).
  • Save a slot each week/weekend to try something new (either by yourself or with others). Make it a fun game of discovery and set aside some time to find out what interests you. Don’t limit the list to things only tied to spiritual or mental growth, or to activities that are expensive or need to be done outside of the home. Dabble in a variety of endeavors and think outside of your box. You will organically receive the internal benefits whether visiting the trending ax throwing club or painting by number at your kitchen table. 
  • Carve out (I mean literally schedule) daily time for breathing, gentle pauses, & mindful moments. Start with three 5-minute mini-breaks per day… one for morning, one for mid-day, one for evening….we are only talking about 15 minutes here!
  • Block off (I mean literally schedule) daily time for silence, solitude, & activities that soothe you. Start with two 10-minute mini-breaks per day…one in the first part of the day and one in the later part of the day…we are talking about 20 minutes total!
  • After you have allotted time for all of the above, revisit your to-be-categorized list. Examine each item and do some raw and honest self-assessment. Highlight all activities/events/tasks that you do not prefer, enjoy, or gain any positive benefits from, and brainstorm ways you can begin to gradually remove these from your docket and/or minimize their frequency and length.

Get comfortable being uncomfortable with the strange responses and quiet resistance you will experience as you make these tweaks (both within yourself and from others). Change can be trying for everyone, but it can be conquered with consistency and commitment.

Foster REAL Productivity

Block time to devote for actions that move you closer to your dreams, visions, and desires. Replace TV viewing and social media scrolling time with activities that inspire,  motivate, and energize you. Recognize that getting up earlier may be required in order to fit more of these new and positive activities into your daily experience (rest need not be sacrificed: go to bed earlier, and this will balance out!!).

Assess if the hours you are working in your job are REALly necessary. Are you working more than you need to? Some of the most productive people I know get an 8-10 hour “to do” list completed in 5-6 hours. Get open to changing your thought patterns and approaches when it comes to defining and achieving a “good day’s work.” Are you working 40+ hour weeks out of need or out of habit?

Optimize the times of day in which you tend to be more productive. If you are a morning person, for instance, structure your day so you can complete the bulk of your more intense work tasks by lunch time, which will leave the afternoon open for less complex tasks (and some fun and relaxation!).

Is there time allotted for self-care each day? If you are depleted, you will have nothing to give (to anyone). Self-love and self-care are restorative and necessary. Increase your productivity by allowing yourself time to recharge.

Make REAL Play Dates

Remember the scene in the movie The Shining, when we realize that Jack Nicholson’s insane character has spent months typing an entire manuscript filled with pages that repeat the sentence, “All work and no play make Jack a dull boy?” We all know what happened after that. Yikes!

We may not necessarily go completely psycho from a lack of playtime, but life is certainly way less REAL and happy without regular doses of fun.

REAL balance is key, and integrating an element of playfulness into our daily lives is crucial if we want to stay centered.

The REAL tea is that you can’t afford NOT to have fun and be playful. We need to stop saying (and thinking) that fun is a luxury. It is a necessity! Fun leads to laughter. Laughter leads to relaxation. Relaxation leads to flow and good energy. Good energy attracts more good energy, and so on.

Build fun into your days, and you will see your life magically transform in very REAL ways.

REAL Computer Cleansing

The REAL tea is that most of us don’t manage our lives on paper anymore. We keep ourselves digitally organized, tracking finances, events, and communications within the cyber spaces we inhabit. Our faces are in our screens more than we would likely care to admit, so it is imperative that what we are perpetually viewing and clicking through is organized in a way that reflects the REAL peace and simplicity we are working to manifest in our worlds. Chaos within file folders and inboxes creates chaos in your energy field and life experience.

  • Delete unnecessary files and folders. Transfer them to a flash drive if you just can’t bare to trash them completely.
  • Clean out and organize all of your inboxes. Delete anything more than one month old, or place it in a sub-folder for easy access.
  • Unsubscribe to all of those shops and organizations that you don’t care about. Take the lead on reducing the junk mail!!
  • Does receiving regular email make you feel loved? Then sign up to receive positive and inspirational email blurbs. Subscribe to a few selected sites that will send you wisdom, messages, & info designed to infuse peace, awareness, and happy elements into your daily experience. Check out my REAL resources page for some suggestions, and make sure to subscribe to my site asap!!

REAL Cellular Sanitation

Let’s face it – the cell phone has essentially morphed into the newest human appendage. Our phones have evolved into so much more than a means to make a call. They act as our cameras, our watches, our alarm clocks, our address books, our radios, our news sources, our encyclopedias…the list seems endless. Literally and figuratively, your cell phone is an extension of you. Just as your digital and electronic spaces carry energies that express and impact you, your phone holds the same power.

  • Remove apps and games that you either no longer use, no longer serve a positive purpose, or no longer represent the REAL you and the life you are intentionally creating. Add some new ones that support your authentic vision, goals, and vibe (try the apps for GNN, Shine, or Headspace).

  • Clean out your contact list. Who is in there that you either already removed or should remove from your social network? Is there anyone whose info you are holding onto because of old emotional baggage and attachments? Why let the wrong people take up space in your phone?
  • Cleanse your camera roll. Store the keepers on a flash drive, cloud, or disc. Delete the images that are attached to negative memories, people, or vibes. Keep images on the roll that bring you joy, make you laugh and smile, make you feel happy. Make room so that you can add to the collection that brings you contentment and peace (whether they are of people you love, quotes that speak to you, or objects and places that represent your vision and interests).

REAL Social Media Scrub Down

Our media walls are the places where we pin up our values, opinions, thoughts, and ideas for all the world to see. These amazingly innovative outlets can be used to show the world what and who we care about and what we celebrate and are grateful for. They allow us to connect with others at a quite extensive level, providing us with the means to transcend the barriers of distance. They offer us a way to share ourselves at a global level. This is REAL powerful stuff.

Recognize the power of collective consciousness. Acknowledge and appreciate the energy that your words and pictures send out to everyone who is exposed to them, and to the universe at large. Reflect on this as you refresh your social media platforms, and make the decision to use them only to reinforce your authentic vibe and vision.

If politics and religion are dear to you, for example, post only messages that represent religious and political aspects that you would like to see more of (as opposed to broadcasting examples of the negativity we all wish – in our own way – to see disappear).

Take down and remove pictures and posts that no longer express the REAL you and your present vision and vibe.

Take down and remove posts and pics that represent negativity, judgement, or other fear-based emotions. The world has enough of that floating around without you adding to the mix.

REAL Reflections

There are deep-seeded reasons why we continue to overpack our calendars, phones, computers, and social media pages. We tell ourselves that we have no choice in the matter, but the REAL truth is that we do decide.

The REAL tea is that we are afraid to make these changes and try a new approach. The specific things we fear vary from person to person, yet they are well worth uncovering and processing.

Do you fear what may surface if you removed the busyness barrier and sat still for REAL?

Do you fear the guilt that might result from prioritizing self-care time, setting firmer boundaries, and saying no?

Do you fear that deleting contacts and pictures would be a dishonor to your past, or to the people that were part of it?

As you move through your digital territories and devices, make some time for reflection and journaling. Use these questions to prompt your self-examination.

The REAL Time for REAL Love is Upon Us

As January comes to a close and February begins, we celebrate our efforts around the REAL space detox ritual that we have taken the last few weeks to pursue together.

Through the intentional detoxification, clearing, and renewal of our physical and digital spaces, we have participated in a symbolic rite of passage. We have carved a path for the next journey.

In preparing our outer environments for the new and refined external experiences we are creating and calling in, we have empowered ourselves to successfully conquer and cleanse our internal landscapes.

Armed with mindfulness, awareness, and authentic ambition, we now pass over the threshold and enter our inner houses, prepared to clean and clear our sacred spaces and make room for the REAL love that will transform them into our REAL homes.

The time for self-exploration and self-love is now, because now is all we have. The path has been cleared.

And that, my friends, is the REAL tea.

Get REAL. Check out more REAL resources in the library! 

 

Filed Under: REAL Clearing and Cleansing, Uncategorized

January 23, 2019 By KT Wilson

REAL Discovery Through Mindful Space Clearing

Week 2: Detoxing Our Living Spaces with Clear Vision & Clean Energy

I love visiting the homes of my friends and family, especially when there are overnights and extended stays in the mix! It can be fun to explore and experience the energies that different spaces and places have.

When I am invited to dine, lounge, bathe, and sleep in someone else’s home, I am given a chance to see and feel their life vibe and vision in a very REAL way. Even more cool is the opportunity to “try on” different styles, scenes, and ambiances (which helps expand my awareness of my own evolving preferences).

These days, when I am someone’s houseguest, I approach the experience of shared time in a much more mindful fashion. Doing so allows me to appreciate my hosts’ company in a new and richer way, and to take a more active and intimate role in their routine and daily experience.

I not only walk away feeling fuller from having been more present with them, but I always leave with an applicable revelation or idea. Whether I take away a new thought about how to enhance my own home, or a clearer sense of what I might not prefer to include in my personal environment, the opportunity to move around in someone else’s space with intention and awareness always sets the stage for REAL discovery.

What’s Your REAL Story?

Our living spaces reveal a lot about us. They, too, are chock full of potential for REAL discovery. With a mindful lens, we can uncover those discoveries and use the insights they provide to learn about ourselves and intentionally create the REAL amazing lives that we want and deserve.

Our outer worlds tell a quiet, but profound, story about our inner worlds. When the stories don’t match up, the disparity throws us off balance. We can say that we want to feel more peaceful and content in our moments and days, but if we design our physical spaces in a way that promotes chaos and anxiety, we will never fully experience REAL peace and contentment.

If we want the story of our internal experience to be an inspiring best-seller, we need to make sure that each page’s content embodies clarity and flow.

Taking a Mindful Approach to Detoxing

As I delved further into my REAL space detox ritual this past week, I thought quite a bit about the stories that my family room, bedroom, kitchen, and car have been telling.

What messages do these places send to me, to the family members I live with, and to my visiting friends and family? Do they tell positive and inspiring tales that align with the REAL life I am actively creating today? Are there any parts of the story that I want to revise, omit, or add new, so that the content has more clarity and flow?

I surveyed each area in preparation for my second week of cleansing and clearing, reflecting on these questions (and the many more that popped up as I pondered). Avoiding the habitual urge to jump in immediately, I took a generous pause to allow for some introspection. Then, armed with an outline for my freshly-edited story, my intention, and my dust rags, I mindfully moved through each space and poured it through the following new and fresh filters.

Our Space Requires REAL Quality Assurance & Risk Assessment

Each of us has our own unique energy field, and so do our spaces. Everything we think, say, and do fuels that energy and creates a vibration. The stuff we surround ourselves with and the environments we exist in also create energy and affect us at the mind, body, and soul level. Though the impact is invisible, it is potent. It ripples out into every aspect of our lives.

It is important for us to know what vibrational frequency we are each aiming to live in. Once that target vibe is identified, we can effectively run our living spaces through our own quality assurance process in order to ensure that the energy coming from them is supporting that vibe and not sabotaging its cultivation. We can evaluate each and every space for potential risks, and we can ultimately remove them.

Most of us want to feel positive and relaxed, and those are the vibes we desire to absorb and exude as much as possible. We all want to feel good, feel happy, and feel peaceful. What vibe do you want your waves to send out into your world and to the universe?

Do all of your spaces hold the energies and qualities of that desired vibe? Ask the questions below to find out.

A REAL Space QA Screening:
  • What vibe would you (and your family) like to accentuate? What brings you and your family unit happiness, joy, & good vibes?
  • Do the pieces of art, photos, books, table dressings, and other items strewn about your living space all make you feel good when you are relaxing among them?
  • Do the specific items in your living spaces, as well as the organization of them, reflect the type of life you and/or your tribe are in the process of creating, and the aspects you envision integrating into your experience?
  • Do the environments in which you spend the majority of your time inspire a cozy, happy, hopeful mix of emotions? Do they speak to the experiences and states of mind and being that you and/or your tribe aspire to?
  • Do your spaces project regret or celebration? (hint: the goal is celebration!)
  • Are your spaces a greater reflection of the past, or the present? (hint: the goal is the NOW!)
  • Do your spaces give off a sense of resentment and sadness, or vision and hope? (hint: we are shooting for hope!)
  • Do your spaces depict who you (and your family members) were, or who you are all working to be now (and ultimately want to become)? (hint: we are aiming for the present and beyond!)

The answers to these questions will help you identify what risks should be removed as well as what could potentially be added or refined so that the vibrational quality of your space is improved (and more closely aligned with the energy you are going for). Throwing these questions out to your family members will inspire fun and thoughtful conversation and likely generate some interesting and unexpected revelations!

Our Living Spaces are REAL Vision Boards

A classic vision board is typically a collage of pictures, images, and words that we create to set an intention for what we desire and envision our life to look like in the future. The idea is to hang the completed board somewhere we can look at it often, as a way to inspire ourselves and to place a direct call out to the universe about the specific experiences we want to manifest in our lives.

In line with the Law of Attraction, a vision board contains representations of the things, people, places, experiences, and feelings that we want to attract into our worlds. They represent the grandest and highest vision we have for our REAL lives.

Start to look at all of your primary living spaces as giant vision boards. As you work your way through each area, consider the following:

  • Does each room and space reflect your (and your family’s) vision, dreams, desires, & joys?
  • What would you/your family members like to see happen and manifest in the future? Do your spaces reflect those things?
  • Where would you/they like to travel to? Do your spaces say anything about those places & plans?
  • What are your family’s individual and collective hopes and dreams? Do your living spaces represent those?

If you do share physical space with family or friends, make this a collaborative effort and run through this list together. This is an excellent way to teach your children about their own creative power and magic! It is time to begin showing them how to shape their own experience and build the REAL lives they deserve.

Using the results of the group dialogue, scan your spaces and evaluate them with the following in mind:

  • What fits our vision(s) and should remain? (Remember that what you keep will attract and be a magnet for more of the same)
  • What does not work well with our vision(s), and should be removed? (Remember that we awaken in a REAL way when we shed the old stuff that no longer serves us)
  • What could be added to enhance & support our vision(s)?
  • How can the space(s) be rearranged and reorganized to make our vision(s) more REAL and palpable?

Our Home Should be A REAL Stay-cation Destination

I once read a quote that said something about the importance of building a life that we don’t need a vacation from, and it REALly resonated with me. A REAL life should indeed be one that feels like a vacation. Our home space should NOT be a place that creates an experience we are eager to escape from at any opportunity. Rather, it should be the place we long to escape to when we need shelter from the noise and stress of the outside world.

Of course, this is not to say that vacationing to new and distant places is a negative thing. There are enormous benefits to be gained through travel and adventure! However, if waves of dread and anxiety typically come over us when it comes time to pack up and return home from our travels, we have a REAL problem.

Do you look forward to getting home when you come back from vacation? Would you enjoy a “stay-cation” day in your home? What could you add to, remove from, or revise within your living spaces to make them more inviting, relaxing, and enjoyable?

Our Home Space should be our REAL Sanctuary

In his book Making Space: Creating a Home Meditation Practice, Thich Nhat Hanh reminds us that it is hard for the mind to be peaceful when the body is not in a physical space that is peaceful.

He says that when we rest, everything becomes easier. By turning our living spaces into environments in which we can relax, breathe, rest, and heal, we can restore our well-being and better the odds that we can operate at our best. At the end of the day, isn’t that what we are all shooting for? Being our best self and maximizing our enjoyment of the moments and days we live in?

Would you consider your home to be your sanctuary? Do your living spaces bring you and your family feelings of comfort, security, and contentment?

A sense of safety and calm allow us to rest for REAL. Our living space should be a place where we can most easily rest and recharge.

What can you remove, add, or renovate within your living spaces so that all who move around in it feel protected and at ease?

Empty Space is not the REAL enemy.

Cleaning and clearing with a mindful lens will result in some empty spaces in your rooms, on your walls, and on your tables and shelves. It’s OK to have blank spots for now!

Recognize that not all clear space needs to be filled. We tend to over-decorate and overstock our rooms, our shelves, and our lives. The resulting overage causes energy jams and blocks. There needs to be a clear path for the REAL good stuff to flow in and through.

Resist the urge to fill bare spaces immediately. Give it time, reflect on your vision, ask the universe and angels for guidance.

Remember that REAL transformation requires wide open space.

The Universe Needs REAL Space to Weave its Magic

The R in REAL represents recognition. It can be difficult to recognize the universal support system that works in our favor if we live in a constant state of clutter and disarray. The universe is SO eager to help us, but we need to be awake and clear enough to notice.

Spending our moments and days in spaces that reflect negative vibes and chaos create fog and rob us of the focus and clarity needed to pick up on the signals and guidance that the universe is placing in our path everyday. With too much junk to wade through, we can literally trip over a sign or message and never see it.

Cleansing and clearing our external environment is the first step in creating open spaces where the universe can leave us its REAL treasure.

With mindfulness and intention, we can refine our homes in ways that foster REAL spirit, REAL vision, and REAL energy. We can move through our renewed spaces with the intense gratitude that comes from knowing with full certainty that the universe will help to make our visions and dreams very REAL.

And that, my friends, is the REAL tea.

Get REAL charged up about mindfully clearing your space and making room for  REAL positive energy and balance in 2019. Check out more REAL resources in the library, and subscribe now to receive additional insights, inspirations, and videos!

Filed Under: REAL Clearing and Cleansing, Uncategorized

January 15, 2019 By KT Wilson

The Ritual of REAL Space Detoxing: Creating a Clean Path to Clarity

Week #1: Clearing the Behind-the-Door Spaces

 

The REAL Age-Old Legacy of Saving and Storing

The house I grew up in had one of those attics that could only be accessed by pulling a string attached to a small door carved into the hallway ceiling which had a foldable and rather flimsy hinged wooden ladder attached. The space in the attic was not only unwieldy to get to, but it was one in which we could not stand fully upright and which had a floor formed by a mix of scattered plywood and exposed pink insulation.

I remember the time I was watching TV in my parents’ bedroom and I saw my dad’s entire leg come through the ceiling of his clothes closet. He was putting holiday decorations away in the attic and mistakenly stepped into a space that had no floorboard. Whoops.

As much of a pain in the neck as it was to navigate that darn attic, we never hesitated to throw things up there. Literally throw them. I can still envision my mom pulling the attic hatch halfway down and tossing trash bags of God-knows-what into the dark opening. With no garage, what were we to do? Saving and storing was a must. Holding onto things is part of an age-old legacy, right?

When Marty and I bought our second house, we not only had a huge walk-in attic with easy access from the bedroom level, but we also had a three-car garage. Now we were talking. We would never run out of places to store our stuff – yay!!

When we sold the house and made the move last April, my “yay!” transformed into a “WTH?!” Let’s just say we definitely did our part to preserve that age-old legacy in the 15 years that we resided there. We filled two commercial-grade dumpsters to prove it.

Why Do We REALly save and store?

Most of us have a tendency to save things. Our shared resistance to part with possessions is no doubt a result of more than one dynamic, not the least of which is society’s consistent message that more stuff equates to more success and more importance (even if the stuff is hidden on the shelves of our closets).

Aside from the relentless push to amass a large volume of material wealth, we each grapple with our own unique brand of neurosis that plays into our attachments to certain objects. Whether it stems from anxiety, obsessive-compulsive thinking, a childhood filled with poverty and hunger, or an unconscious need to overcompensate for some perceived area of lack in our life, we each have a handful of individualized demons that perch themselves on that one shoulder and encourage us to forever hang on tightly to everything that is ours.

Our REAL Hang-Ups

I think we can all relate to at least one of the following reasons behind our collective struggle to let go of things.

  • They have sentimental value: we attach things to memories, they remind us of people and experiences (we should try taking a picture of an item if we need more than a mental image of it in order to sleep at night).
  • We feel guilty getting rid of them: we associate objects with loved ones and feel disloyal discarding them (we should sharpen our REAL perspective: are we REALly showing respect and gratitude by letting those things collect dust?).
  • We worry we might need them again (we should get REAL honest with ourselves – when is the last time we truly needed them? Could that potential need be met another way?)
  • We attach previously treasured (a.k.a. old) dreams and hopes to them (we should REALly think about this: do these items accurately represent the REAL lives we are looking to build now, today?).
  • We saw the Toy Story movies too many times (we should be REAListic about what happens to objects after we discard them. We can curb the guilt and worry by recycling and giving away as much of it as we can).

We Can Inspire a New & REAL Legacy of Letting Go

 

Simplify before you solve.

Many people try to solve their most pressing issues and challenges from the same space that they were created in. Similarly, when it comes to setting intentions and goals, people attempt to add new dynamics and experiences to their existing situations.

In almost all cases, the common result is a sense of frustration and a gradual loss of momentum to do the work that supports their desired outcomes.

It is next to impossible to build a solid and sturdy structure onto a foundation that is rotting and weak in some areas. With a bit of re-organization and refinement, however, any foundation can be reinforced and renovated to support new designs and additions.

We can clear the way to build our REAL lives.

Clearing and purging combine to form the crucial first phase in any reinforcement and rebuilding process. Paving the way to intentionally construct our REAL lives is no exception. The acts of physically cleansing our living and working spaces and emptying them of no-longer-useful things serve as REAL-time training for the mental and emotional unblocking and releasing that awaits us a little further down the road.

We will begin with cleaning our outer, tangible spaces in a literal way, which will prime us for the future scrubbing up of behaviors, beliefs, and inner environments that we will eventually get to in the later phases of REAL-life detox.

This is transition training at its best, friends. True to the cornerstone approach that REAL living embodies, we will move forward at an easeful and manageable pace. We will fully embrace, yet not rush, the process of letting go.

Clearing the Trash to Make Room for the REAL Treasure: Detoxing Our Fridges, Closets, & Cupboards

We kicked off our REAL-life space detox ritual this week, and I am eager to share my approach and my subsequent learnings with you! I encourage you to share your insights and revelations with me as well. It is a REALly beautiful thing to be traveling on this journey together, and trading our thoughts and ideas along the way will help us all to grow.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

A REAL Basic Approach

As I moved from space to space and assessed each item I came across, I paused and reflected upon the following:

  • Do I see this being useful and valuable to the REAL life I am now creating?
  • Will it fit into and support my vision for the new and improved experiences I will manifest in my REAL life?
  • Does it/will it make my life easier and simpler?
  • Does it make me feel good, content, happy, peaceful?
  • Will I REALly need or use this a year from now? REALly?

A resounding yes? Great! Keep it, clean it, store it appropriately and in an organized way  (or perhaps bring it out into the open again).

A resounding no?  Options: throw it in a trash bag, a recycle bin, a donation box, or the Goodwill pile. Make the choice within 10-15 seconds, and move on.

A REAL Mindful Mindset

Every Sunday morning, I read one section of a wonderful little book I bought for myself over Thanksgiving weekend. It is called Joy in Every Moment: Mindful Exercises for Waking to the Wonders of Ordinary Life, by Tzivia Gover.

Right on time (of course), the section that was cued up for me to devour this past Sunday was all about creating and experiencing joy in one’s home. How fortuitous! The universe knows what we are up to (no surprise).

Gover encourages us to think of each room in our apartments, condos, or houses as representing our intention to feel truly at home in our hearts. Through that lens, we can mindfully refine and revise our spaces understanding that each of them is sacred ground and should contain only items and ambiance that inspire inner peace and joy.

With Gover’s suggestions in mind, I moved slowly and deliberately through my targeted spaces and silently cleared and cleansed led by the following thoughts:

  • My refrigerator represents my desire to nourish my body in new ways and with more intention.
  • My closets and cupboards demonstrate my commitment to securing only items that make my moments and days simpler and healthier, and allow me to function with increased ease and efficiency (efficiency being the gateway to a world in which I have additional time to spend in REAL ways).

As I dredged through my fridge, cabinets, closets, and drawers, I mentally poured every item I came across through the filters of the above criteria. I mindfully contemplated how I could change up each space to reflect peace, joy, and inspiration.

A REAL Appreciation for the Fringe Benefits of a REAL Space Detox Ritual

I knew going into this month-long ritual that the progressive cleansing and clearing would leave me feeling REALly inspired and organized, but I could not have predicted the additional positive side effects that sprung up and pleasantly surprised me throughout the process.

Clarity: When we feel clear, we are able to see ourselves and our lives with greater lucidity. We understand what is occurring for us and why, and we know what action to take to best honor our personal truth. Wiping away the fog and mess in our lives – from cleaning and clearing our homes, to cutting negative ties, to clearing away and replacing negative self-talk – allows us to return to our center and see our lives with full transparency.

Freedom: It is liberating and freeing to clear out and let go of the old and no longer useful junk. Starting with a clean slate offers a sense of both release and hope.

Productivity: Typically, our knee-jerk M.O. involves busying and distracting ourselves during time we would otherwise label as “spare.” The act of deliberate clearing and cleansing our physical spaces can help us meet ourselves in the middle. We can still do something that will keep us busy and can be categorized as productive, which satisfies our rational self. At the same time, we can approach the task in a mindful way, also using it as a chance for solitude, silence, and a sort of working meditation (which fuels our intuitive self).

Meditation & Mindfulness: The very act of cleaning and clearing can in itself turn into a subtle meditative exercise when done in solitude and relative silence. This approach can offer a chance for each of us to be with ourselves in a new way and unblock the invisible wall of busyness that keeps potentially profound insights from emerging.

Simplification– not only do we remove unnecessary and no-longer-useful items from our worlds through this ritual, but we organize what remains in a way that can create more ease in our days moving forward. As a result of cleansing and clearing, we have less to manage. Even better, what we do keep can be intentionally stored in a way that makes things easily accessible and simpler to manipulate, ultimately minimizing those tiny inconveniences and small – yet aggravating – complications that can sour our moments.

Charity: Our trash is likely another man’s treasure. Clearing and de-cluttering our spaces generate bags and boxes of items that may no longer be useful to us but might be needed and desired by someone else. We can shed our excess and give it to others who do not have enough.

A REAL Clear & Silent Space Can Speak Volumes

One week, six trash bags, three recycling bags, four donation bags, and one Goodwill box later, I stand in a clearer space with a lighter feeling and a renewed perspective. I have merely scratched the surface of my REAL space detox ritual, and I already sense the channels clearing.

I made the choice to cleanse, purge, and refine my first handful of targeted spaces in relative silence. Music was my only companion. Though there was no physical conversation, the areas I moved through did speak to me in very profound ways.

Through the forgotten items that I rediscovered, memories that were roused, and revelations that surfaced as I reflectively flowed through the process, my spaces communicated with me.

There were no words exchanged, but in the quiet and solitude I detected their sentiments with full clarity and awareness.

Cherish your friendships. Remember your ancestors.

Roll with the tide. Be the light.

Go on more picnics. Buy only clothes that express the REAL you.

Nourish your body. Uncomplicate your life.

Slow down. Be grateful. Let go.

 

As far as I am concerned, friends, my fridge and closets just spilled the REAL tea.

Join me next week to continue our REAL space detox ritual, and take another giant step closer to your REAL and authentic life.

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January 10, 2019 By KT Wilson

Clearing Trash to Make Room for Treasure: Creating Space for REAL Intentions to Thrive

Shopping in a Mexican Walmart is quite an experience. Aye yai yai. I will sum it up in one word: SLOW.

Or should I say, SLOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOW.

When we arrived in Playa del Carmen for an early December get-away with friends, our mission was clear: check in, drop bags, speed-walk to the Walmart for food and libations, and get back to the condo as quickly as possible so that we could start working on our tans and get the blender going. This is our standard first-day-of-vacay protocol, so we were mentally prepared….at least, we thought we were.

Let me just tell you that I have been to a lot of markets in a lot of places, and I have never seen a mass of food-shoppers move so slow in my entire life. People perused as if they were viewing an exhibit in a museum, floor workers stocked shelves and walked the aisles in almost backwards motion, and cashiers seemed to be holding a secret competition to see who could scan items and count change the slowest.

We conquered and divided in order to speed up the process, and I was placed on snack detail. To the overhead sounds of foreign Christmas carols, I frantically raced up and down aisles and searched for the items on the list. I huffed and sighed as I impatiently whirled my cart around all of the aimless wanderers and searched for the chips and salsa.

Where in the hell was the Pace Picante??!!! Guess what? Mexican people don’t buy pre-made salsa, amigos. They make their own. Duh! It took me about 15 minutes to solve that frustrating mystery. My irritation was quickly diminished when I discovered that a case of Corona was $9.00 (NICE!!!).

Finally, we re-convened, combined our goods, and chose a check-out line (which really didn’t matter, because they were all a mile long). As we stood waiting, my husband, Marty, and I scanned the scene, met one another’s gaze, and quietly laughed. He leaned in and with a hint of his vintage sarcasm, he mumbled, “clearly, none of these people know how thirsty we are.”

They didn’t know, nor did they care. They were probably thinking that we were just another bunch of panicky American tourists rushing around so that we could hurry up and relax.

Hurry up and relax…yup, admittedly, that’s about right. As Marty would also say, “I resemble that comment.” I resemble it too.

What’s the hurry?

We. All. Move. Too. Fast. We don’t even REALize how quickly we are zooming through our moments and days until we find ourselves smack in the middle of a Mexican Walmart, stuck in line, and forced to stand uncomfortably still and REALly think about.

We move quickly, and we expect things to happen quickly. We tend to have zero patience for anything or anyone that falls short of immediate responsiveness. When we make the decision to do something, we swiftly spring into action, and we anticipate prompt (if not instantaneous) results.

ASAP is our unfortunate mantra here in the United States. Depending on which part of the country one resides in, this exists in varying degrees. At the end of the day, however, most Americans move, think, and talk at an extremely hurried pace. While acting fast can absolutely be a positive approach in some situations, the unconscious and deep-seeded effects of a habitual rush-mode lifestyle tend to sabotage our best intentions.

Our learned and routine sense of urgency and immediacy undermines our relationships, our physical health, and our general wellbeing. It disrupts the path to our goals and our overall progress, making it challenging to create REAL and lasting change in our worlds. It’s just not a productive way. Not good at all.

We have to rein it in if we want to win the race.

We are energized in a unique way during the months of December and January. The turn of the 12-month cycle is symbolic and inspiring, and most people experience it as an ideal time for new beginnings.

True to our hasty and impulsive nature, we typically waste no time taking advantage of the super-charged motivation that we have when we are standing on the edge of a new year. We begin to mentally draft our resolutions and goals long before the presents are wrapped, and we start jotting them down and talking about them before the holiday ham is even in the oven.


When that first week of January hits, we come out of the gate like thoroughbreds in a Triple Crown horse race, ready to plow through our intention list and transform our worlds.

Statistics indicate that about 10% of us will finish the race. Yikes.

It takes more than speed and lists, friends.

The REAL work starts long before the horses get to the starting gate.

Why do so many of us struggle with maintaining the resolve around our resolutions? Simple: We pull the trigger on them way too fast!

We are hyper-focused on rapidly diving into our newly-envisioned lives and goals ASAP, and it doesn’t occur to us that pressing pause and taking a bit of upfront housekeeping and stage-setting time might be useful. Our impatient brains shout, “I ain’t got no time for that!” and our conditioned minds urge us to launch into immediate action. Per the usual, we rush things. We jump the gun. I don’t have to tell you what typically happens as a result of that…the data speaks for itself.

We have to take out the trash before we can bring home the treasure.

What most people miss is that before we can successfully bring new and renewed elements into our experience, we must first make room for them. We need to pre-plan and proactively carve out space for our new intentions to cultivate and operate within. We need to sweep our chimneys before we strike the matches and ignite the fire of REAL change.

Think about it this way:
Life is an experiment. Life is a dance. Life is an adventure. Scientists ensure that their labs are free of germs and toxic variables before they test new methods and procedures. Performers ensure that their stages are clear of obstruction before they start to twirl around and move to new steps and beats. Explorers analyze their maps to plan for potential obstacles and hindrances before they set off on excursions to new territories.


 

We have to clear a path and remove the debris and excess out of our way before we can pull new things in and add them to our existing landscape. There must be a purging of sorts. All solid renovation and construction efforts start with a cleansing and a clearing out of the space to be altered.

There is a lot to be said for a little time and space.

There is only space for so much in our lives, and this is true regardless of whether it’s mental, physical, or emotional collateral we are storing. When we overcrowd that space by trying to heap new stuff onto old stuff, it usually doesn’t go well. The pile will, at some point, become imbalanced and topple over.

So… we have this finite amount of space to work with, space to hold our mind, body, and spirit inventory. We now intend to refine and refurbish that space by trying some new activities, changing our thought patterns up a bit, tweaking a handful of our behaviors, and making some shifts in our routines.

Great!

Before we spring into action, though, we need to slow down and ask ourselves the following:

What will we remove from our daily dockets in order to make room for those new activities?

What perceptions and internal narratives will we work to wipe from our minds in order to make space for the newer healthier thoughts?

What behaviors will we be looking to rid from our repertoires so that we can make room for the new inventory?

What will we scratch from our schedules so that we have time to account for those shifts to our daily regimen?

The cornerstone component of REAL living is simplification. The aim is to refine and innovate our daily experiences so that we are less taxed and more at ease. It is tempting to shortcut the intention-setting process by just adding the new to the existing and hoping for the best, but that approach will only leave us feeling more burdened.

The alternative? We can slow down and take some time to survey and analyze our space. We can identify what needs to be discarded, cleansed, and/or moved around in order to make way for the exciting enhancements and additions that we will use our REAL power and energy to create.

We will set intentions with clarity and a clean slate.

We will detox before we develop.

Renewing with a REAL Ritual: Clearing the Way for REAL Change

Over the next month, I invite you to join me in an across-the-board REAL living detox.

This will not be a competitive game or a difficult challenge, but rather a soothing and healing ritual.

Together, we will literally clean and clear out the spaces in which we live and breathe. In doing so, we will make for a more organized and polished start to the year, and more importantly we will set the stage for the mental and emotional cleansing that will inherently become part of the process as we move closer to operationalizing our 2019 intentions and goals.

Over the next four weeks, we will clear the channels and scrub up all types of spaces and places: where we eat, where we sleep, where we lounge, where we work, where we travel, and where we digitally live.

Our Mission: De-clutter, cleanse, clear, tidy, and detox all spaces in our lives.


Our Target Areas:

• Our refrigerators
• Our closets, cupboards, and drawers
• Our living spaces
• Our cars
• Our lockers and desks
• Our calendars, routines, and to do lists
• Our social media pages and walls
• Our inboxes and TV viewing lists

 


Our Timeline:

We will take this at the gradual and manageable pace that REAL living calls for, and we will allow ourselves about one month to cleanse and clear. Each week, for four consecutive weeks, I will pass along applicable info and tips and share my personal progress and insights with you.

We will complete our detox and clearing ritual during the week of Valentine’s Day, a fitting time to honor and applaud the fact that we love ourselves enough to take the time for this invaluable and healing exercise. The best part: we will culminate and celebrate our efforts together with my very first REAL Tea YouTube video!

Clean your gear and grab your bag, we are headed someplace new!

Creating, renewing, and manifesting change are inside jobs. Internal work is key. At the same time, though, we need to recognize and acknowledge that our outside worlds, the environments we move around in and the spaces we occupy, are a direct reflection of our inner landscape. There is a very REAL connection between these two sides of our experience, and we have the REAL power to use that relationship to our advantage when it comes to promoting change and newness within our moments and days.

Through the act of consciously detoxifying and cleansing our outer spaces, we are giving advance notice to the universe that we intend for our inner worlds to mirror the crystal clear and clutter-free backdrop we are carefully preparing. When the work of cleansing is complete, we will be standing together with wide open spaces and hearts, ready to inspire REAL change and build our REAL lives upon the foundation of our REAL intentions.

I leave you with an excerpt from my newest book purchase, Journey to the Heart by Melody Beattie. It is no coincidence that these words crossed my path this week. Cheers to the transformation and joy that await us in the new places we will discover together as we explore the wonders of REAL living.



January 9, You’re Going Someplace New ~Melody Beattie

You are opening up more and more. You are becoming clearer each day. Embrace the changes taking place. They are good. They will last. They will take you and your life to someplace new, someplace you can’t fully imagine now because it is so different than where you have been.

All will be changed. Your love, your life, your friends, your work. Your quiet moments and your times of sharing. Your play time, your rest time. Your attitude will change. Your ability to fully enjoy and joyfully experience your life will change.

Things that used to bother you, hold you down, hold you back will roll off easily. Problems that used to plague and pester you, making you feel weighted down, will be lifted easily. You will know and trust that the answers you need will come to you.

Your powers will increase. You will find yourself doing, knowing, and feeling things that you thought only certain others could do. You will find yourself gliding through life in a way that brings you joy, and touches and heals others.

You will laugh a lot. And yes, you will cry a lot too, because an open heart feels all it needs to feel. But you will not think twice about your emotions. You will feel them with the purity of a child and the wisdom of a sage.

You will see, touch, taste, and feel life’s magic in a way you never imagined. You will love, and you will be loved. And you will learn that it is all the same.

You are open now, more open than you’ve ever been. Trust the process and trust your heart. The journey is not in vain. Its purpose is to lead you to love.

And that, my friends, is the REAL tea.

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December 31, 2018 By KT Wilson

Embracing Change in REAL & Inspiring Ways

I have had the pleasure of spending the better part of these last 2018 mornings nestled on my couch, listening to soft jazz, and reflecting on the happenings and blessings of recent days.

With my new cozy, Be Happy slippers warming my feet, piping hot coffee filling my new Thankful for You Mom mug, and my new fresh balsam candle emitting a crisp winter forest scent, I have savored the start-of-day stillness and allowed my thoughts to gently wonder.

The common thread that has weaved together the images, memories, and sentiments swirling around my head and heart have centered around one word: change. It’s everywhere.

Change has been a quite pronounced headliner theme in my life over the last weeks and months, and I can tell from recent conversations I have had and heard that I am not alone.

In December, I talked with strangers about changes in holiday traditions and celebratory routines. I spoke with relatives about changes in their careers and residences. I chatted with friends about changes with our children’s pursuits and our parents’ health. Within my own four walls, we discussed everything from making nutritional changes, to noticing changes in friendships, to experiencing changes in our ideas about life direction and goals.

Personal, community, and even global shifts abound. I have the sense that it is just the beginning.

Why are we so afraid of change?

Change can be…scary. Unfortunately, we have all been programmed to fear it at some level.

It isn’t always a negative thing. In fact, change can be a very good thing. Still, even the most positive changes can sometimes feel like a burden when they first come to pass. I knew that when my daughter chose to go 1,000 miles away for college that it would be a fantastic experience and much-needed change of pace for her, but it still made me sad to think that our family unit would never quite operate in the same way again.

Change comes with a level of uncertainty, which is unsettling. It can be less of a problem when we are in charge of implementing it; but whether it happens with or without our intention, it all tends to come with new and unexplored territory (which, in turn, tends to spark anxiety). There is a sense of safety and security that comes with knowing what to expect, and change throws a wrench into that. We don’t always handle things gracefully when newness of any kind shakes up our carefully packaged lives.

People prefer predictability. In fact, they prefer it so much that they often resist change and continue to tolerate unhealthy situations, people, and/or circumstances longer than they should, for no other reason than that their fear of the unknown trumps their motivation to leave the comfortable bubble they are accustomed to floating around in. We’ve all been there.

There is one thing we can count on never changing, and that is that change will always keep coming. Why do we allow ourselves to fear that which we cannot avoid? Wouldn’t it be easier and simpler to welcome it with open arms?

Changing Up Change, For REAL

Deviations from our normal routines make all of us uncomfortable, and the REAL truth is that each of us makes the choice to feel that way.
Fear of change, just like fear of anything else, is a personal decision.

Other people might be responsible for how we thought and felt when we were little; but we are all grown up now (at least in theory 😊), and the way we think and feel about life today is all on us.

The amazing news is that because we have decided to live for REAL, we now recognize that we have the power to change up anything that we wish to. We can transform the way we think and feel about anything by redefining and recreating our thoughts and perceptions around it.

Our view of, and approach to, the role that change plays in our worlds is no exception. With awareness and intent, we can refocus our energy and harness our power to experience change in an entirely new way.

We don’t have to be afraid of change any longer. What a relief.

Pouring Change Through a REAL Filter

For me, living for REAL means feeling content and at peace most of the time, regardless of what is happening in my world. It is about setting up the logistics of my daily life so that I have a better shot at feeling good and happy in the majority of my moments and days. This involves proactively clearing my life of the things that don’t bring me joy and pulling in more of the things that do. The snags hit when I run into those dynamics that I can’t control…like change.

I know I can’t stop it from happening or remove it from my life, so my only option is to overhaul my whole take on the subject. If I pour it through a new filter, change may taste sweeter.

If I can train my mind to see it in a different and REAL light, as something positive (and maybe even fun), I have a better than even chance of turning it into something that actually adds to my peace and contentment (or at the very least, doesn’t rob me of it).

REAL Terminology: Talking a New Language

Lately, I have been working on rewiring my brain by using alternative words to describe change. My top two favorites are evolution and revolution. It just feels better, more hopeful and encouraging, when I say that something is evolving or revolving. Both words give the sense that something is in process and holds promising results, rather than implying that something is abruptly beginning or ending.

It is more comforting and calming to see life through a lens of continuously moving cycles and processes, as opposed to a chain of random stops and starts. From this perspective, there REALly are no endings to mourn.

Evolution promotes the idea that something is being improved upon and expanded. Revolution inspires a state of excitement and a sense of rebellion against old, worn-out circumstances. I feel assured and inspired just typing the words!

Simply by shifting the descriptors I use to tell my story about changes occurring in my life, I change up the emotions and thoughts that I attach to them. I am consciously removing the trepidation and worry and replacing those with excitement and anticipation. Words are a REALly powerful tool.

Additional synonyms that work include transformation, transition, refinement, development, and innovation. Try switching up your vocabulary and using one of these terms the next time you are talking about a change you are experiencing. Notice the difference in how you feel when you stick a more positive and appealing label on it.

REAL Perspective: Turning Things Upside-Down

I went to see Mary Poppins Returns this week, and it was fantastic! In one of the scenes, a quirky cousin of Mary’s is very upset and confused, because her whole world has physically and literally turned upside down. Mary suggests that her cousin simply adjust her perspective by standing on her head; and, of course, from her new upside-down vantage point, she sees things more clearly and becomes happy and calm again. Voila!

Change can sometimes make us feel like our worlds have been turned upside-down. Perhaps if we took Mary’s advice and aligned our perspective accordingly, change would feel less like upheaval and become easier to navigate.

Am I implying that you should attempt a headstand the next time you are faced with unsettling change? Not exactly (although in yoga, those types of positions are very cleansing and calming!). What I am suggesting is that we practice the art of rolling with it.

What if we relinquished control and simply rolled with the punches of change? What if we restructured our perception of change and approached it from a counter-intuitive, upside-down vantage point? What if we just decided to stand on our figurative heads the next time something in our lives seemed to flip upside-down? Might we see things differently and feel less anxious as a result?

My Own Example:

This past April, my family transitioned from a spacious single family home into a small apartment. While the downsizing was deliberate, we have each navigated several resulting changes tied to this dramatic shift in lifestyle (some we anticipated, some we didn’t). One I did not predict was the impact that the change in residence would have on our Christmas routine.

The holidays in my old house included wall to wall decorations, four Christmas trees, stockings hung from a mantle adorned with my favorite seasonal décor, a front porch covered in lights, a basement dressed up in Ravens’ purple ornaments with a theatre area perfect for Christmas movie watching, and multiple parties hosting family and friends. We did all of that for 15 years, and it was wonderful. Good times, great memories.

When we started decorating and preparing for the holidays in the new apartment, it was initially a little disconcerting. There was no way I could fit all of my decorations in the new space, and I was forced to transition from eight bins to two (a travesty!). I had no mantle to beautify or to hang my daughters’ stockings from. There was no front porch to light up. There was no basement to decorate, no theatre-grade projection screen to view our favorite holiday classics on. There was certainly no room to host big celebrations (at least none with more than 6-8 people!). In early December, we all felt like our holiday traditions had been turned upside-down.

About a week before Christmas, I decided to stand on my head to gain some perspective on the whole thing. You know what I saw from down there? I noticed an apartment filled with only my most sacred and prized Christmas decorations and memoirs. I saw a living area simply and beautifully adorned with one tree, which was still topped with our Santa angel and which we still decorated together while the movie A Christmas Story played in the background (as is tradition). I saw all of the precious time that we gifted ourselves by moving into a smaller more manageable space, time that we used to spend decorating and maintaining a large house, time that we instead now spent enjoying more quality time as a family, time that we now had to restore and just be. I saw my three favorite people squeezed together with me on one couch, eating popcorn, and laughing out loud as we watched the Chinese waiters attempt to sing Jingle Bells to Ralphie and his family.

“Standing on my head” and altering my perspective made me REALize that our Christmas traditions are simply evolving, and that we are transitioning into a new way of celebrating the season. It is different, but it is OK. We are innovating. We are transforming. We are growing.

As Ralphie says towards the end of that movie, all was right with the world. Indeed, it is right.

It is REAL.

Rewriting a REAL Script

We can alter our perspective and experience of change by adjusting the language we speak and the filter we pour it through, but we must also redraft the script we read from when we are describing it to ourselves and to others.

How we communicate and what stories we tell determine most of what we experience in life. What script do you attach with change? Is it one that includes the element of fear?

Zig Ziglar says that FEAR has 2 meanings: Forget Everything And Run, or Face Everything And Rise.
Do you want your story to be about running, or about rising?

Will you decide to put up a fight? Will you opt to take flight? Or will you make the bold decision to try something ground-breaking like going with the flow? The choice is yours.

I know from experience that fighting and fleeing take up an awful lot of energy (and are rarely effective). Flowing sounds much less complicated…calmer…easier. I choose flow.

My in-progress internal script for change goes something like this:

I embrace change.

There is a good reason this is happening, even if I don’t yet know what that is.

It is OK not to know. I can trust the process of life.

I give up the resistance. Resistance only causes friction in the universe and knocks my vibration out of whack… not worth my energy.

Things are always working out for me. (I like to borrow that one from Abraham Esther Hicks)

I can relax.

This is not good or bad, it is just…different.

Change is an introduction to an adventure and new opportunity for growth.

Life would be dull without change.

Movement of any kind is a good thing, stagnation is not healthy.

If I focus too much on what has been, I won’t be able to see where I am going. 

What will your new script sound like?

Living for REAL centers around the art of embracing and inspiring REAL change.

Change is not usually something we delight in or applaud, but perhaps it should be. Change blows regularity and predictability to bits, but maybe that is exactly what we need. Could it be that now is a good time to rip up our routines and willingly plunge into new and unchartered waters. Isn’t that what REAL living is all about?

Change happens. People grow up, people grow old, people move, people switch jobs, people retire, people are born, people die, people’s personalities evolve, people modify their preferences and feelings over time, people change their minds. The list goes on and on. That’s life. Would we REALly want it any other way? Would we want a world with no variety, no movement, no dimension? No.

We are all standing on the cusp of a new year. We are looking back over our shoulders and remembering all that has evolved over the last twelve months. We are shifting our gaze straight ahead and anticipating all that will come our way in the next twelve. We are standing in this unique place and time, knowing that change is on the horizon and sure to show up. We don’t know what form it will take or when exactly it will knock on our door, but we know it is inevitable that we will meet up with it. We are facing change right now, in this very moment.

Let us greet change with a warm hug and usher it through our thresholds with love and acceptance. Let us invite it in like a good friend and allow it to transform and stretch us in new ways. Let us flow with the natural current of life and embrace its changing tides.

In the words of Abraham Esther Hicks,

It has been a wonderful year, and a wonderful decade, and a wonderful century, and millennium, and beyond…but you have seen nothing like what is before you.

There is no looking back.

You cannot go back from who you now are.

You can only move forward.

You can innovate, refine, develop, transition, transform, and evolve. You can create your own REAL revolution and decide to live for REAL in this moment. You can change things up and create a REAL life now.

And that, my friends, is the REAL tea.

Happy New Year~

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